After nine months of waiting(or seven in my case) your baby is finally in your life.This means that you should be and feel the most happiest women on Earth. And for a moment I did, but in the next second I felt the most unhappy, misunderstood women on Earth , I felt like I was living someone else’s life.
Depression is a serious disorder that requires most often psychotherapy or other form of treatment. Just a few days after birth, new mothers may feel restless, overwhelmed, cry very easy and very quickly go from one emotional state to another, from joy to sadness.
The number of women whom experience postpartum depression is considerable. At least half of young mothers can have baby blues, but specialists say that percentage can actually climb up to 75-80%.
If you have recently given birth and find yourself in one of the next situations it is quite likely to have what is called postpartum depression.
Manifestations of the Postnatal Depression
Sadness after birth is considered normal for the new mothers and usually it disappears after 10 days. But some women still experience symptoms more severe or lasting longer than a few days. This is the postpartum depression.
A number of recent studies have shown that a growing number of women experience postpartum depression – about 75% of the mothers show symptoms immediately after the baby’s birth. Most women overcome them relatively fast. They manifest mainly by emotional instability (episodes of crying and negativism).
Postpartum depression is a disease, like diabetes or heart disease. It can be treated through self-help strategies,therapy and moral support or through medication and antidepressants( in case of severe depression).
Symptoms of Postpartum Depression
- A state of sadness
- Frequent crying
- Restlessness, anxiety, irritability
- Lack of interest or pleasure of living life
- Loss of appetite
- Lack of energy
- Trouble sleeping, including trouble falling asleep, maintaining sleep or sleeping more than usual
- Feelings of guilt, hopelessness
- Unexplained weight gain or loss
- A state that life is not worth living
Sadness after birth usually occurs in 1-2 days after the mother gave birth and can last up to three weeks. It is so popular among moms that came to be considered a normal state. Still, a woman suffering from postpartum sadness does not feel at all well . You may feel perfectly fine for a minute and then you burst into tears . You may feel irritable and depressed, in general. It is very important to know that you are not the only one, that you are not alone and the most important: this is not your fault, this doesn’t mean that you are a bad mother.
Activities That Other Mothers Found Helpful in Battling Postpartum Depression That You Can Apply
- Find someone close(husband, family, friends), talk, share your feelings and fears
- Ask someone help you with the baby and house maintenance. It’s a way to find time to do something for you, even if it means no more than 15 minutes, daily.
- Try reading an interesting book or do some exercise (walking is great for your health and it is easy to do), take a relaxing bath.
- Keep a journal where you write down your feelings and emotions. This is a way to open up and download your thoughts and frustrations. After passing postpartum depression and feel better, you can re-read what you wrote during that period and this may help you to know yourself better.
- There could be days when you do not feel like you are able to accomplish anything, but try not to get mad at yourself when this happens: it is no problem to feel overwhelmed.
- Birth brings many changes and baby care involves much responsibility. It is totally normal to feel overwhelmed and just try to understand that no one expects from you to be a “super mum”
- ask your doctor about your condition,so he can offer good advice and medicine to improve the situation .
New baby,means new life, changes and unexpected issues, like postpartum depression. As the studies show this can not be prevented but it can be successfully treated.
Family members, especially the life partner should be the first to detect the postpartum depression installing and react promptly. Without treatment it could last for months and years, affecting the mother’s health, the relationship between mother and baby, between mother and father and so the harmony of the family could be in danger.
Reach out, let the love of your family and friends comfort you and try to understand that this period is normal for most women that go though the life-changing experience of giving birth.